This is a wee bit of a rant. I apologize in advance if you are offended, but sometimes things need to be said anyway…
You have heard people say something like, “If you don’t vote, you have no right to complain”, right? (Don’t worry this is not a commentary about politics or people’s political participation.) Well, what does this mean? It means you can only complain about something for so long before people expect you to start doing something about it. If you don’t try to do something about it, you lose your right to complain. I see this a lot, both personally and professionally. (Heck, I am guilty of it myself sometimes).
- You don’t like your job? Start working to find something else. Search the job listings. Get some additional training/education. Do something!
- Lonely? Find ways to meet more people. Get a hobby. Go to church or temple or mosque. Online dating. Invest in getting to know people. You cannot wait and expect a great group of new friends to knock on your front door – unless you are really into Jehovah’s Witnesses. (If you are, cool, maybe they will ring the bell).
- Think you’re fat? Exercise. Eat Less. Go to the doctor to discover if there is something contributing to your weight retention. Check yourself – are you being unrealistic about your weight. You may be fabulous the way you are.
- Tired of being broke? Find a way to make more and spend less. Maybe you need a second job or a better budget. Consider training for a position that will pay you more. (If you don’t have a terminal rich aunt, you are the only one who can make this better for you.)
- Bad relationship with your mother/father/sister/brother/friend? Work on making it better. Go to therapy. Talk things out. Consider moving on. Figure out what you need to do to find peace in this relationship.
Look, there is a certain timeframe in which you are free to complain – bitch and moan until your heart’s content. Get it out, but then you need to move on. It’s time to either accept it as is (without any more complaining) or do something about it. No one can tell you exactly how long you are free to complain, but once you have crossed that line, your audience becomes a lot less sympathetic and it is time for you to start taking steps. Have you ever had the experience when you have tried to keep bitching way too long and it felt like people began to turn on you? Felt like crap, right? Avoid this when you can – start planning on how to make your life better. The people around you will thank you and you will feel better, too.